Tempering first reactions. Taking a generational perspective ; What is LGBTQ? ; First reactions ; What not to say ; What to say ; Getting it right when you can't agree ; Parental adjustments -- Homophobia. Understanding homophobia ; Dissecting stereotypes ; Casual cruelty ; When homophobia morphs into hate ; Religion and homophobia ; Bullying ; Can sexual orientation be changed? -- The path to healthy adulthood. Social-emotional development ; The only way through is out ; Stages of coming out ; When development derails ; Resiliency and hope -- Health and sexuality. Sexuality: the birds and the bees revisited ; Health risks ; Optimizing health care ; Becoming an in-law and grandparent -- The fight for equality. Values, rights and laws ; Marriage matters ; Legal protections ; Positively gay.